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What's the secret to a long marriage?

In my line of work, I end up meeting a lot of older couples, many that have been together for thirty or forty years or more. I always ask this question as a way to get to know them better, but also to gain some wisdom and insight on this topic.

As you can imagine, I hear many of the typical responses, but I'll never forget one couple's response. They were both in their late 70's/early 80's, and had been married for almost sixty years. When I posed the question, they both kind of chuckled and looked at each other with a bit of a twinkle in their eye. The wife then looked up at me with a grin, and said, with no hesitation, "well, we never wanted to get divorced at the same time."

We had a good laugh, but I think there was a kernel of truth to this statement. All long-term relationships go through ebbs and flows, and there are times when one partner may be more or less - I don't want to say committed - active may be the better term, in the relationship. I've been with my wife for seventeen years, and while there are been more ups than downs, I'm the first to say that there have definitely been some of the latter, too. Took lots of hard work, discussions and compromises, and a continued commitment to each other and the relationship to come to an understanding to come through to the other side.

On this Valentine's day, what are your suggestions for maintaining a successful and fulfilling long-term relationship?
[Post edited by 105A at 02/15/2020 01:21AM]

Posted: 02/14/2020 at 1:13PM


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What's the secret to a long marriage? -- 105A 02/14/2020 1:13PM
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